Spreader Bars

How to use a spreader bar

Fasten the cuffs around your partner's ankles, adjust the bar to a comfortable width and lock it. Lying on the back with the bar between the ankles is the easiest start. You can also cuff wrists to the bar, or clip the centre of the bar to a bed restraint to keep legs raised.

Positions that work brilliantly

Spreader bars make oral sex, missionary and doggy style feel more exposed and intense. Kneeling with ankles spread and wrists attached to the bar creates a classic submissive position. Raising the bar over the shoulders gives deep access for penetrative play.

Width and comfort

Start narrow, around shoulder width, and widen slowly. Overstretching strains hips and knees, so watch for discomfort and adjust immediately. Cushions under the hips and lower back make longer scenes more comfortable.

Safety reminders

Make sure your partner can't fall or tip over while spread, especially when standing or kneeling. Keep cuffs snug but not tight, check circulation and stay close throughout. Never leave a restrained partner alone.

Taking it further

Spreader bars pair well with a door sling or sex swing, where gravity and restraint work together for new angles.

Spreader bars for solo and partnered play

Although usually used with a partner, a spreader bar can add a sense of exposure to solo play too. Couples often use them during oral sex, where the receiving partner is held open and can only relax and enjoy. Switch roles regularly so both partners experience the vulnerability.