Strap-Ons

A complete kit: the harness and dildo are made to fit each other, so there's no guesswork. Start with a medium size and a flexible silicone dildo. Our beginner's guide Strap-Ons Unveiled explains how harnesses work.

A harness gives more control and stability, and you can swap dildos. A strapless model feels more connected for the wearer but takes some practice to keep in place.

Yes. Most harnesses work for pegging; choose a slimmer, tapered dildo, go slowly and use plenty of lube. Read why pegging can spice up your bedroom before you start.

Men who want added length or girth, or who want to keep going regardless of erection. They're worn over the penis with a harness or elastic straps.

It needs a flared base or suction cup wide enough to sit behind the harness's O-ring. Many harnesses come with interchangeable rings for different sizes.

A water-based lube is safe with every dildo material; avoid silicone lube on silicone dildos. Find out more in The World of Lubricants.

Yes. Strap-ons are worn by people of every gender and used in every kind of relationship. The right harness and dildo simply depend on your body and what you enjoy.

Remove the dildo and wash it with warm water and toy cleaner. Wash the harness according to its material: most fabric harnesses can be hand-washed, while leather needs a damp cloth and leather care. Let everything dry fully before storing.

Yes. Many harnesses have a pocket or second ring for a bullet vibrator, which adds stimulation for the wearer. Check the harness description for compatibility.

For most couples, a dildo of around 5 to 6 inches with moderate girth is a comfortable starting point. Choose slimmer and more tapered for anal play or pegging, and remember that most harnesses let you swap dildos, so you can size up later.