Realistic Dildos

Choosing the right size

Length matters less than girth. Measure a toy you already enjoy, or start with 5 to 6 inches of insertable length and moderate girth. Remember the balls and base aren't insertable. If you love fullness, step up gradually rather than jumping to the largest size.

Single, dual or triple density?

Single-density dildos are evenly firm. Dual-density designs have a firm core and soft skin-like outer layer for a more natural feel. Triple-density adds a middle layer for even more realism. Softer outer layers feel lovely but need a little more care when cleaning.

Hands-free and harness play

A suction cup base lets you stick the dildo to a smooth floor, wall or shower screen and ride it hands-free. Most suction cup bases also fit a harness for partner play; see our strap-on dildos.

Using a realistic dildo safely

Warm up first, use plenty of water-based lube and go slowly. For anal play, choose a slimmer model with a flared base. Never switch from anal to vaginal use without washing.

Material and care

Silicone and TPE realistic dildos are body-safe. Wash with warm water and a mild toy cleaner after each use, pat dry, and dust soft TPE with a little cornflour-free renewal powder if it starts to feel tacky. Store away from other toys and sunlight.

Positions to try with a realistic dildo

Lying on your back with a pillow under your hips helps angle a realistic dildo towards the G-spot. Kneeling and riding a suction cup model lets you control depth and speed, while lying on your side gives a relaxed, slow feel. On all fours, a partner can use the dildo on you for deeper penetration. Mix positions to discover what feels best, and add clitoral stimulation with your hand or a vibrator for even more pleasure.

Realistic dildos for couples and fantasy play

Many couples enjoy a realistic dildo as part of threesome fantasies, double penetration play or role play. It can also help a partner experience penetration in a new way, or add variety when erections are unpredictable. A suction cup base lets you attach it to a harness for strap-on play. Talk openly about fantasies and boundaries first, and remember that a toy is an addition to your sex life, not a replacement for either partner.

Skin-tone and colour options

Realistic dildos come in a range of skin tones, from light to dark, as well as translucent and colourful versions that keep the lifelike shape. Choosing a colour that appeals to you can make the experience feel more personal and arousing. Many popular ranges, such as RealRock, offer the same model in several tones, so you can pick the shape you like and the shade you prefer.

Curved or straight?

A straight realistic dildo gives even, all-round fullness and is the easiest to ride. A slightly curved shaft angles towards the front wall of the vagina, which many people find better for G-spot stimulation, and it can also target the prostate during anal play. If you're choosing your first realistic dildo, a gently curved model offers a little of both and suits most bodies.

Why choose realistic over smooth silicone?

Realistic dildos recreate the shape, texture and often the weight of a real penis, which many people find more arousing and satisfying. The defined head and veins add sensation at the sensitive entrance, and balls give something to hold or a stable base for riding. Smooth silicone dildos are simpler to clean and often less intimidating. If you love a lifelike experience, a realistic dildo is hard to beat.

Realistic dildos for anal play

For anal play, choose a slimmer realistic dildo with a flared or suction cup base, so it can't slip inside. Use a thick anal lube, warm up with fingers or a small plug and insert slowly while relaxing your muscles. A gently curved shaft can press on the prostate for extra pleasure. Never move a dildo from anal to vaginal use without washing it thoroughly first, or use a fresh condom.