Dildos

How to choose a dildo

Think about size, shape and material. For a first dildo, choose something around 5 to 6 inches long with moderate girth and a flexible feel. A curved tip targets the G-spot, a straight shaft gives even fullness and a suction cup base adds hands-free options. If you'd like to measure before you buy, see How to Choose the Perfect Dildo Size.

Materials explained

Silicone is smooth, non-porous, easy to clean and holds its shape. Dual-density materials have a firm core and soft outer layer for a realistic feel. Glass and metal are firm and great for temperature play; see our glass dildos.

Vaginal or anal play?

Any dildo with a flared or suction cup base can be used for anal play; slimmer, tapered shapes are most comfortable. Never move a dildo from anal to vaginal use without washing it first.

Lube and care

Always use lube with a dildo; water-based is safe with every material. Wash with warm water and toy cleaner after use, dry fully and store away from other silicone toys.

Dildos for solo play

On your own, a dildo lets you explore at your own pace and discover the angles, depths and rhythms you enjoy. Try lying on your back with your knees raised for easy control, or use a suction cup dildo on a smooth floor or wall to ride it hands-free. Combining a dildo with clitoral stimulation from your fingers or a small vibrator often makes orgasms stronger. Take your time, use plenty of lube and focus on how it feels rather than rushing.

Dildos for couples

Dildos are great partner toys too. Your partner can use one on you during foreplay or oral sex, or a harness can turn a suction cup or flared-base dildo into a strap-on for pegging or role reversal. Double-ended dildos let two partners enjoy one toy together, and remote vibrating dildos let your partner control the sensation. Talk about what you'd both like to try, start slowly and keep communication open.