Big or Small? How to Choose the Perfect Dildo Size
When it comes to picking out a dildo, size is one of the first things people consider—and rightly so! Whether you're a sex toy newbie or a seasoned pro with a collection to rival Flirtybay's Best Sex Toys lineup, the question of size inevitably pops up. Does size matter? Should you go big or small? Do you need to start a "Goldilocks search" for the perfect fit? Well, the answer is both simple and complex—and we’re here to help you navigate the wild and wonderful world of dildos. Buckle up!
First Things First: Size Matters (But Not Like You Think!)
Let’s get one thing clear: whether you're looking at sex toys for men or sex toys for women, the size of a dildo does matter, but probably not for the reasons you're thinking. This isn't about living up to some unrealistic expectation or trying to emulate what you’ve seen in adult films. No, choosing the right size is all about your comfort, preferences, and the kind of experience you're seeking.
It’s kind of like shopping for shoes—there’s no universal “best size.” Some folks feel like they're walking on clouds in high heels, while others prefer the comfort of flats. The same goes for dildos. What feels right to one person may not be the best fit for another. So, don’t get caught up in the hype about going bigger just because “bigger is better.” In the world of dildos, bigger is only better if it’s what you enjoy. And trust us, Flirtybay is all about making sure you enjoy yourself!
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The Basics: Understanding Dildo Sizes
Before we dive into whether you should go big or small, let's talk about the dildo basics—size isn't just about length. You’ve got a few dimensions to consider:
- Length: This is the tip-to-base measurement. If you're all about deep penetration, length might be important to you. But if you're more into external play or shallow penetration, you might not need a skyscraper.
- Insertable Length: This is different from overall length. The insertable length is the part of the dildo that can actually go inside you—because let’s be honest, no one’s inserting the suction cup base (well, hopefully not).
- Girth/Circumference: Now, here’s the real kicker. The thickness of a dildo is often where preferences vary the most. Some people love the feeling of being “filled up” while others prefer something slimmer for ease and comfort.
- Base: Many dildos come with a flared base, which is important for safety—especially if you're exploring anal play. A flared base is like the safety net that prevents things from going… well, places they shouldn’t go.
Go Big or Go Home? (Not Necessarily)
There’s a common belief that bigger equals better in the world of dildos. It’s the “size queen” mentality, and while there are people out there who love a challenge, not everyone wants or needs a monster dildo to get the job done. Here at Flirtybay, we like to say that it’s all about the fit, not the size.
The Case for Big Dildos
Large dildos are, well, big fun for the right people. If you’re someone who craves a feeling of fullness, wants to push your limits (safely, of course), or enjoys the sensation of deeper penetration, a larger dildo could be just what you’re looking for. Plus, larger dildos are often great for solo play when you’re really in the mood to treat yourself. Let’s not forget the dramatic aesthetic appeal of a big, bold dildo sitting on your nightstand—it’s practically a statement piece.
But hey, don’t just take our word for it. Some of our best sex toys in the larger category include realistic dildos that not only look like the real deal but feel pretty darn close, too. Want to kick things up a notch? Try an ejaculating dildo. Yes, you read that right—an ejaculating dildo! Talk about going for realism.
The Case for Small Dildos
On the flip side, sometimes less is more, and small dildos are perfect for those who prefer something more subtle or want to ease into things (literally). Beginners often find smaller dildos less intimidating, and let’s face it, not every sexual encounter requires going all out. Maybe you're more into precision and targeting specific areas like the G-spot or prostate. Smaller dildos can be perfect for that!
Smaller dildos are also great for anal play, especially if you’re just starting out. At Flirtybay, we stock a range of slim and small dildos that are both high-quality and gentle enough for beginners. They’re not just about less size, they’re about more control and comfort. If you're thinking about combining anal play with other mens sex toys, a smaller size can be a perfect complement to other tools in your kit.
