Handcuffs & Restraints

Choosing the right restraint

Think about the feeling you want. Handcuffs are quick and playful, perfect for spontaneous fun. Padded wrist and ankle cuffs spread pressure over a wider area, so they're more comfortable for longer scenes. Bed restraints let you tie your partner spread out on the mattress, while spreader bars keep limbs apart for full exposure. Rope offers the most creative freedom but takes practice to tie safely.

Materials and comfort

Velcro and nylon cuffs are soft, adjustable and easy to escape, which makes them ideal for beginners. Faux leather and padded cuffs feel more serious and hold their shape well. Metal cuffs look striking but can pinch, so look for models with a safety release and padding. Whatever you choose, make sure you can slide a finger between the restraint and the skin.

Restraint safety

Never put restraints around the neck, avoid positions that strain joints, and keep keys or safety scissors within reach. Check hands and feet every few minutes for cold, tingling or colour change. Keep the first scenes short, and never leave a restrained partner alone, even for a moment.

Combining restraints with other toys

Restraints pair beautifully with sensation toys. Add a blindfold to heighten anticipation, a feather tickler or flogger for contrast, or a vibrator that you control while your partner can't move. The combination of helplessness and pleasure is what makes restraint play so memorable.